me and him

I'm thankful and grateful for the one year that we had in our own home. If we had lived here from the start of our marriage, I don't think we would have much of a relationship in comparison of it now. We've been here for two months and for the two months, we've given up so much in terms of privacy and in terms of 'us'. I miss what we had and what we could do together. Living here may be helping in terms of finances but I think we're sacrificing lots (maybe too much) personally.

That one year of living by ourselves helps the situation though. Without that one year, that time spent being plain ol' Mister & Missus, I don't know how much I would be able to take all these past two months just going through the motions of togetherness. All we do get to do alone is sleep in the same bed and occasions of kai kai. Pretty much like dating except with sex and a little less talk. Sure hope things change soon.. Either that or I just have to be more patient and give life time to move things along.

I miss my husband.. I miss the Mister & Missus.. I miss Clyde & Chel. Trying to find ways to aid the situation. Then again, he's with a new job that drains him physically and mentally. I guess that adds to the diminishing 'us' time too. Patience.. Just patience.. Got to be the supportive wife! And find other ways to fill up what used to be us time.

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Garage sale didn't go so well especially my old shoes WHICH are in pretty good condition but apparently, my feet are too small in comparison to others in Brunei. However the main item was sold! So mil's happy. Saving all the stuffs now for the next ISB PTA carboot sale. Now that will be fun!

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my valentine's gift

Thanks babe.. *kiss*

pitter patter

The babies of my life.. (click on respective picture to access their picture folders on facebook. ps: you need facebook!)

Lil' Ashley, daughter of Nane Nick & Goh ee

Lil' Darius, son of Te Tek & Wendy

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Wish I could have captured all the faces most people portray when they hear me announce that we're moving back with the in-laws. One friend even asked if I was sure! (ps: we don't have a choice to change our minds..)

Truth be told, all those comments were not helping with my transition from my own home to a home which reminded me of home before. FULL of people. It's hard to be very calm about the whole process. It's hard to put on a brave face. Even now..

After almost 2 months of staying here, I have to say that it hasn't been that 'weird'. Tons of pros and cons obviously.

Major cons:

• No absolute privacy. (can't walk around naked! hehe..)
• No more kitchen of my own. (sure I can bake and cook in the kitchen here but it's just not the same! It's not the same..)
• Chinese food everyday! I miss my 'banana' roots! Pasta was our staple in our home. Here, it's been rice with a few sporadic indulgences of non-chinesey food which is a total opposite of my kind of diet. I think I've only cooked chinese food 3-5 times in the whole year of our stay in our own home.
• Chickens.. smell and sound. Roosters here have absolutely no sense of time!
• Not enough parking space. We are ALMOST typical bruneians with a ratio of 1 car to 1 person. (Bruneian ratio is 1.5 cars to 1 person)
• Not enough space. The bedroom's our room and everything. I swear that when we move next to our own home, there will be absolutely no telly in the room and I highly doubt that we will have cable.

Pros:

• I have food cooked everyday.. =P
• Don't have to worry about washing ck's clothes in time!(I wash clothes once a week or so.. Just need to check laundry basket. If it's piled up, it's time. Saves water and electricity)
• Don't have to do much house cleaning anymore! woohoo!

I wonder how long we're going to stay here..